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You’ve spent years – decades, even – feeling stuck.
You might have achieved a lot of outward success, but inside you feel like a scared little kid.
You feel like you’re carrying baggage that may not be yours.

Your emotions overwhelm you, so you learned to power through, but inside you sometimes wonder how you got so f*cking broken.

First of all, nothing is wrong with you. You’re not broken.

But you might be struggling with the effects of intergenerational trauma.

What is intergenerational trauma

Intergenerational trauma is when the effects of trauma get passed down through generations. The ripple effects of trauma can be felt for a long time – so it makes sense that you feel like you’re carrying something that isn’t yours.

Intergenerational trauma can originate from abuse, forced or voluntary migration, genocides like the Holocaust, systemic oppressions and so much more.

The survivors of the initial trauma may have been your parents, grandparents, and even further back. The initial trauma didn’t happen to you, but it’s been passed down to you.

Internalizing it isn’t a conscious process – and it isn’t your fault. Trauma is both felt and passed down on an emotional, body-based, sensory level (as well as in words).

The effects are seen in how those who came before you coped with challenges, navigated relationships, dealt with danger, parented their kids, expressed their emotions and so much more. Often, it can lead to decades of unhealthy dynamics, family dysfunction, anxiety, and perfectionism.

What you’re carrying isn’t yours.

But you’re still carrying it – so it may be time to learn how to put it down and step into a lighter version of yourself.

Healing is possible.

I’ll end with this quote by Terry Real that has really resonated with me lately – “Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation, like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow.”

If you’re ready to start your own healing process, let’s speak about working together – you can schedule your free phone consult here.